Pairing Today
"For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation." Rainer Marie Rilke
Services
What we exchange most fundamentally is not
Goods & Services
but OURSELVES.
Service 1
Relationship Counseling
I am available online via Skype, WeChat, Whatsapp, QQ as well as Zoom (a virtual meeting room that enables us to watch Powerpoints, videos, as well as to view and talk). Also, here in Santiago, I am available to meet in person at your home or mine.
I meet with any singles or couples who wish to have help in either repairing their relationships or enhancing them or starting new pairings whether for permanent or temporary purposes.
My minimum meeting time is 30 minutes. My Online Rates: 30 minutes: $15USD/11,000CLP; One Hour: $28USD/20,000CLP; Five Hours Block: $24USD/17,500CLP an hour. My Face-to-Face Rates are slightly higher and depend on if I must travel to meet you or if you come to me.
If you compare my rate to any other professional counselling you will find it is extremely competitive and affordable. You pay me Online through PayPal or a Credit Card and Face-to-Face by Cash.
Although I am not a registered psychologist, if you check out my work credentials you will see I have considerable experience in working with singles and couples for a wide range of relationship issues in a number of professional settings (e.g., my work with Relationships Australia; my Partners for Life relationship consultancy; my community advocating for Palliative Care). I invite you to check out my personal and professional credentials whose links you can find on another page here.
Here are the kinds of counseling I have done and continue to do:
1. Persons wanting help to date--whether young, first timers; or older, repeaters after a long absence from the dating scene (marriage, widowhood, career building, etc.).
2. Persons wanting to gain self-knowledge about themselves especially in relation to potential or current dating partners or permanent partners.
3. Persons in temporary or permanent (married or not) relationships that want to: enhance a good relationship; re-pair a slightly damaged one; or completely rebuild and renew the relationship to save it.
4. Persons facing life-threatening physical illnesses or mental disorders, either themselves or their loved ones or friends.
5. Persons wanting guidance or coaching in any of the following areas of their lives:
--Career development, starting or changing
--Work performance improvement
--Cross-culture education in the workplace
--To improve workplace performance of employees of their companies for increased effectiveness and profits
Service 2
Relationship Programs Offered
I am trained, registered or accredited to use a number of relationship psychological or therapeutic programs, instruments, and models. These psychological "tools" can be used with singles and couples for personal purposes or as persons working in institutions or businesses. They include:
1. The VIA Survey of Character Strengths
A simple test that takes just a few minutes of your time and provides a wealth of information to help you understand your core characteristics. Created under the direction of Dr. Martin Seligman, the "father of Positive Psychology" and author of Authentic Happiness and Flourish, and Dr. Christopher Peterson, distinguished scientist at the University of Michigan and author of A Primer in Positive Psychology, this self-assessment character survey is regarded as a central tool of positive psychology and has been used in hundreds of research studies and taken by over 2.6 million people in over 190 countries. It is the only free, scientifically validated online character strengths tool available.
The VIA is free for the simple version, with a fuller one for a fee. Take the VIA SURVEY free to find out your Character Strengths and discuss results with me free on Skype. http://resourceforyoursource.pro.viasurvey.org
Service 2
Relationship Programs Offered
2. Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI®)
"The MBTI® personality assessment is the most widely used personality instrument in history. Based on 70 years of research and development, the MBTI® tool has a sound and proven record as a successful instrument in the field of human psychology and development. As such, it has worldwide acceptance as the gold standard of personality assessments. The MBTI® has been translated into 23 different languages and is the most widely used instrument in the world for understanding differences, with well over 1 million yearly global administrations."
http://mbtitoday.org/about-the-mbti-indicator/
This model can be valuable in helping you find the more probable partner match as research shows that certain of the 16 Types statistically partner more successfully. The book I use is Love Types by Dr. Alexander Avila. http://www.lovetype.com/about.html
The MBTI can be taken online for a fee as well as free for some versions.
3. The Keirsey Temperament Sorter
"The Keirsey Temperament Sorter®-II (KTS®-II) is the most widely used personality instrument in the world. It is a powerful 70 question personality instrument that helps individuals discover their personality type. The world’s leading organizations rely on the Keirsey Temperament Sorter (KTS-II) to help them find solutions for their most important people challenges and opportunities." (Keirsey website)
It is free to take a beginning version and much free literature on it is available. There is a for fee version.
http://www.keirsey.com/sorter/register.aspx
4. The WorkPlace Big Five Profile™
"The WorkPlace Big Five Profile™ 4.0 personality assessment is based on the Five-Factor Model of Personality. The assessment will reveal an individual’s 5 personality supertraits and 23 subtraits that simply and clearly explain work-related behaviors found in day-to-day encounters with co-workers, employees, managers and colleagues." (Centacs website)
This instrument I use only for the workplace. There is a fee and it is taken online and then the results are examined in depth with my client on the Internet.
http://centacs.com/who-should-use-it/
5. PREPARE/ENRICH
"For over thirty years, PREPARE/ENRICH has been the #1 guide for helping couples explore and strengthen their relationships. Built on a solid research foundation, PREPARE/ENRICH has been improved and refined over the years to become one of the best, most effective, easy-to-use relationship assessment tools available. We have helped over 3,000,000 couples grow their relationships and solidify their marriages using the powerful tools provided. PREPARE/ENRICH is custom tailored to a couple's relationship and provides couple exercises to build their relationship skills."
I have found this online instrument surprisingly and usefully revealing for couples who were considering a permanent partnership. It is very thorough and I have found couples get to know each other on a depth that would not be possible for many years in relationship.
The online customized version caters to all kinds of couples planning on being in or currently in permanent relationships, including:
--Couples planning a permanent partnership who do not have children.
--Couples planning a permanent partnership who have children.
--Couples seeking couple enrichment or counseling.
--Older couples (50 years or older) planning a permanent partnership or facing other life transitions such as retirement or relocation.
The fee is $35usd per couple. Here is a video introducing the program:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B8lsGr7a5lg